All of My Thoughts and Articles
It’s All About Trust
I remember a few summers ago, I visited some friends who lived in Western Michigan. One day, we went out to spend the day at the beach. One of the friends brought their dog, and ...
Don’t Confuse “No Progress” with “Slow Progress”
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when trying to change something in their life is to confuse "no progress" with "slow progress". Here’s what I mean: Changing anything is difficult, whether it ...
How to Plan Anything: 5 Key Steps
Many people I know have the following experience: They have a goal or project that they need to make progress on, but they just can’t seem to do it. Maybe they aren’t sure about the ...
3 Steps to Make Relationship Differences Work For You
When couples struggle in their marriage or relationship, they often talk about their differences. Sometimes the differences have to do with personality (e.g., he’s too lazy, she’s too uptight). Other times the differences have to ...
The 2 Levels of Enneagram Personal Growth
When people talk about the process of personal or spiritual growth using the Enneagram, they often talk about “catching yourself” acting out of your number so you can engage the world in a more flexible ...
Put Yourself on a Schedule
This morning, I woke my daughter up at 7am. We always wake her up at 7am. It isn’t because we particularly enjoy getting up early and waking her up at that time. But it’s her ...
The DMPP Model
I’ve been working on a model to help people make changes their lives, and I’d like to share it with you. The model has four steps: (1) Dream, (2) Method, (3) Psychology, and (4) Physiology. ...
Be Wary of Your “Go To” Emotion
We each have certain emotions or reactions that we tend to go to more naturally. For example, some people go to anger pretty easily. It’s their natural reaction. Others tend to express sadness. Still others ...
What if You Can’t Close the Loop Right Away?
I’ve written before about the importance of closing the loop as quickly as possible. To briefly summarize, whenever we become aware of an issue or problem in our lives, it creates an open loop in ...
