All of My Thoughts and Articles
3 Ways to Deal with Difficult Feelings
No one enjoys feeling depressed or anxious. When you experience a difficult emotion, the natural tendency is to want to STOP feeling that way. In other words, you want to do something to avoid or ...
Good Will Hunting and the Importance of Authenticity
One of my favorite movies is Good Will Hunting. If you haven’t seen it, the movie is about a troubled genius (Will, played by Matt Damon) and his relationship with his therapist (Sean, played by ...
A Day in the Life of an Enneagram 5: Liz H.
How did you get introduced to the Enneagram? My husband—an Enneagram 4—ran across the Enneagram first and became quite enthusiastic about it. He brought it up in conversation after conversation. Our dialogues generally took the ...
Memorial Day, Murph, and Gratitude
Crossfit has a cool tradition where they name workouts in honor of service members who have died defending our freedom. This Memorial Day, our gym did the workout Murph. The workout honors Navy Lieutenant Michael ...
Don’t Lie to Keep the Peace
Awhile back, I was talking with a co-worker, and I was frustrated by something they had done. It wasn’t the end of the world, but I was angry. I think they could tell I was ...
Take Time to Reflect: Did the Feared Thing Actually Happen?
Many of us struggle with anxiety. At its core, anxiety is about fear. We are afraid of some bad thing happening in our life, so we avoid the thing we are afraid of. Or, we ...
Helping Groups Heal
As a professor, counselor, and writer, I engage with people every day about their deepest experiences of pain and struggle. We live in a broken world, filled with disappointment, problems, and difficulties. This is a ...
Riding Out the Highs and Lows
Life is full of highs and lows. Sometimes it’s helpful to know that both the highs and the lows don’t usually last too long. A Bad Day I remember one day awhile back, I was ...
What Does It Mean to Love Your Neighbor?
One of my favorite stories from the Bible happens when a rich young man approaches Jesus and asks what he must do to get eternal life. Here’s what happened: Just then a man came up ...
