My Thoughts and Articles
Focus on Real Life Most of the Time
A couple years ago, I started playing this game on the computer, and it was addicting. I remember one weekend, I spent a few hours on the computer without even thinking about it. Have you ever had that experience? Maybe it’s a TV series on Netflix that you’re into, and ...
It’s All About Trust
I remember a few summers ago, I visited some friends who lived in Western Michigan. One day, we went out to spend the day at the beach. One of the friends brought their dog, and I was amazed at how well behaved the dog was. The dog could be running ...
Don’t Confuse “No Progress” with “Slow Progress”
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when trying to change something in their life is to confuse "no progress" with "slow progress". Here’s what I mean: Changing anything is difficult, whether it is quitting smoking, starting an exercise program, or improving your work habits. It isn’t easy ...
How to Plan Anything: 5 Key Steps
Many people I know have the following experience: They have a goal or project that they need to make progress on, but they just can’t seem to do it. Maybe they aren’t sure about the best way to tackle the project. Or, maybe they get bogged down in the details, ...
3 Steps to Make Relationship Differences Work For You
When couples struggle in their marriage or relationship, they often talk about their differences. Sometimes the differences have to do with personality (e.g., he’s too lazy, she’s too uptight). Other times the differences have to do with wanting different things (e.g., one spouse wants more connection and the other spouse ...
The 2 Levels of Enneagram Personal Growth
When people talk about the process of personal or spiritual growth using the Enneagram, they often talk about “catching yourself” acting out of your number so you can engage the world in a more flexible manner. This is certainly important, and it is one of the key ways that understanding ...
