My Thoughts and Articles
3 Ways to Help Psychology and the Church Work Together
When I was in graduate school getting my doctorate in Counseling Psychology, I remember feeling a tension between my career goal (i.e., becoming a psychologist) and my Christian faith. Sometimes it seemed like I was part of two communities that were constantly in conflict with one another. My psychology community ...
Don’t Get Caught in a Triangle
Relationship conflict is tough to resolve in a healthy way. In fact, the inability to resolve relationship conflict is one of the leading reasons why couples get divorced at such a high rate. Today I want to talk with you about something that often happens in the midst of relationship ...
The Connection Between Our Relationship With God and Our Parents
Over the years, research has shown that there is a connection between our relationship with God and our relationship with our parents. The basic idea is that early on in our lives, we develop an attachment to our primary caregivers. The type of attachment we develop is based on several ...
Good Relationships Aren’t Transactional
My wife gave me some feedback the other day about how I was engaging with our baby. She said that most of my interactions with my daughter involved me doing something for her, or trying to get her to do something. For example, most of my time was spent changing ...
Inside Out Emotions: We Need Them All
One of my favorite moves is "Inside Out." It’s a creative film that focuses on the life of Riley, an 11-year old girl. Her life is going pretty well until her family moves from Minnesota to San Francisco because of her father’s new job. Riley goes through some tough times ...
What is Your Goal in Service Of?
I generally think it’s a good idea to focus more on your values than your goals. But sometimes these can be difficult to tease apart. Values are ongoing patterns of committed action that you can do for the rest of your life. Goals are accomplishments that you can complete and ...
