All of My Thoughts and Articles
Don’t Get Too Connected to Your Hypothesis
As a researcher, sometimes I get too connected to my hypothesis. In my work, I spend a lot of time thinking about and studying a particular topic, and it can be challenging to take a ...
3 Ways to Help Psychology and the Church Work Together
When I was in graduate school getting my doctorate in Counseling Psychology, I remember feeling a tension between my career goal (i.e., becoming a psychologist) and my Christian faith. Sometimes it seemed like I was ...
Don’t Get Caught in a Triangle
Relationship conflict is tough to resolve in a healthy way. In fact, the inability to resolve relationship conflict is one of the leading reasons why couples get divorced at such a high rate. Today I ...
The Connection Between Our Relationship With God and Our Parents
Over the years, research has shown that there is a connection between our relationship with God and our relationship with our parents. The basic idea is that early on in our lives, we develop an ...
Good Relationships Aren’t Transactional
My wife gave me some feedback the other day about how I was engaging with our baby. She said that most of my interactions with my daughter involved me doing something for her, or trying ...
Inside Out Emotions: We Need Them All
One of my favorite moves is "Inside Out." It’s a creative film that focuses on the life of Riley, an 11-year old girl. Her life is going pretty well until her family moves from Minnesota ...
What is Your Goal in Service Of?
I generally think it’s a good idea to focus more on your values than your goals. But sometimes these can be difficult to tease apart. Values are ongoing patterns of committed action that you can ...
Creativity and the Need for Space
I remember a few years ago, I was feeling maxed out. I was living in Chicago at the time, trying to keep up with my research, planning a wedding, and then we had to figure ...
Healing Takes Some Time
There’s a really interesting story in the book of Mark, where Jesus heals a blind man. Here’s what happened: They came to Bethsaida, and some people brought a blind man and begged Jesus to touch ...
