All of My Thoughts and Articles
How to Use the Enneagram for Personal Growth
One of the things I’ve been thinking about lately is how to use the Enneagram as a tool in counseling, coaching, and personal growth. It has been incredibly helpful in my own work, and I’d ...
How to Decide What to Do at Work: A 4-Part Model
Many people go about their work activities haphazardly. They respond to whatever seems to be most important in the moment, without doing much thinking about what they should be doing and why. This way of ...
Don’t Give Up What You Want Most For What You Want Right Now
There’s an interesting challenge that happens for a lot of us, that keeps us from making progress toward our most important goals. Here’s the issue: A lot of the time, what I ultimately want is ...
Brian Williams and The Importance of Having a Truth Policy
A few years ago, NBC news anchor Brian Williams came under fire for lying about his experiences in Iraq. He said he was in a helicopter that got shot down. The truth was that he ...
Life as a Competition? Think Win-Win Instead
I’m a very competitive person. I’m always looking for a game or contest to enter. Last fall, I traveled back to the college I attended, and my college friends and I went to a football ...
Why Trying to Improve Your Self-Esteem Doesn’t Work
When I was a kid, self-esteem was a big deal. We had programs in school that tried to help us feel better about ourselves. We got participation trophies in sports, irrespective of whether we were ...
Forget the Golden Rule
One of the first key principles we learn as children is the Golden Rule—do unto others as you would have them do unto you. But as I have gone through life, I have become more ...
Encourage “You”
A few years ago, I helped lead a college mission trip to Guatemala through my church. We partnered with Habitat for Humanity, and spent a week working on building two houses. Over the course of ...
Not Part of Our Group
There’s an interesting story in the Gospel of Mark that critiques our tendency to form little groups or cliques based on our particular understanding of God. Here’s what happened: “Teacher,” said John, “We saw someone ...
