All of My Thoughts and Articles
8 Keys to Emotionally Healthy Faith
I’m a big believer that you can’t have spiritual health without emotional health. Part of this conviction has to do with my background. I’m a Christian, and I’m also a psychologist. The way of Jesus ...
Why It’s Important to Finish Well
Have you ever struggled to finish something in your life? I was dealing with this issue the other day. I was working on a book manuscript, and I was losing steam. I had done quite ...
How to Follow the Humility of Jesus
I love reading the Gospels. I think part of the reason is that throughout my life, no matter how frustrated or upset I have been with religion, I always liked Jesus. I always thought he ...
Fear is a Friend Who’s Misunderstood
I was listening to the radio the other day, and a John Mayer song came on. I was struck by one line in the song: fear is a friend who’s misunderstood. I don’t usually get ...
Who Moved My Cheese?
One of my favorite books is "Who Moved My Cheese" by Spencer Johnson. (If you don't like to read, there's a great 10-minute video you can watch here.) The story is about two mice and ...
2 Key Questions to Ask During Conflict
When you are trying to work out a conflict with someone, it is helpful to ask yourself 2 questions. These questions focus on identifying and resolving the underlying needs that are fueling the conflict. Let ...
3 Ways to Turn Off Your Autopilot
A lot of times in my life, I’m on autopilot. I’m so used to a routine, I go through the motions without even thinking about it. The conscious part of my brain is turned off, ...
What is Important vs. What is Urgent
We can get in trouble in our lives when we mistake what is important for what is urgent. What is Important? What is important has to do with your values. Values are like the guiding ...
How to Enjoy the Process AND the Outcome
In life, it is important to enjoy the process, not just focus on the outcome. This is something I struggle with a lot. At work, I’m often focused on outcome. “Let’s get this paper published ...
