Not too long ago, we had a going-away party for a friend of mine who is moving to New York. A few days later, I met up with a good friend and his family who are moving to Arizona. I felt sad–I didn’t want them to leave.
I don’t like change. I’m not exactly sure why. I think it’s mostly the fear of the unknown.
I try to avoid change when possible. Even if I think a change would be good for me, I hesitate to make the leap. I prefer the status quo. Again, I think a lot of my change avoidance has to do with fear. Things may not be perfect where I’m at, but at least I’m familiar with it. Out there… who knows!
But I don’t think this way of being is very adaptive, so I’m trying to change 🙂
Part of the problem is that being change-averse doesn’t really align with the way things are. The world we live in is always changing. People are always changing. We can resist the change, but then we’re out of step with reality.
Also, being change averse causes me to miss out on life and new opportunities. If I don’t take a chance to try something new, I might miss out on a new possibility that would help me grow. I don’t want to miss out on life because of my fear.
So guys, have fun on your new adventures! I can’t wait to visit. And thanks for helping teach me to be open to change in my own life.
How do you react when things change? How open are you to change in your life?