All of My Thoughts and Articles
Be Clear and Upfront About What You Want
In your relationships, it’s important to be clear and upfront about what you want. This can be challenging, but if you are clear about what you want, it usually turns out better for everyone. You ...
How to Move From Neurotic Misery to Normal Unhappiness
Freud once said that the goal of psychotherapy is to move from neurotic misery to normal unhappiness. I thought this was an interesting idea, and I’d like to unpack it a bit. Neurotic Misery Neurotic ...
Why It’s Actually a Good Thing if It’s Your Fault
I remember visiting some good friends who have young children. If I had a dollar for every time I heard one of the kids say "It's not my fault!" I probably could have paid for ...
How to Use Stress to Your Advantage
When you lift weights in the gym, you get stronger by applying stress to your muscles. You put your muscles under tension and strain, and the muscles actually break down a little bit. You don’t ...
7 Steps to Change Anything in Your Life
People come to counseling for a variety of reasons, but the one constant is that they usually want to change something in their lives. Something about their life is not how they want it to ...
When Dating, Make Sure You Connect on Several Things
Sometimes people ask me about dating, specifically about what they should look for in a potential partner. I always start with the acknowledgement that I struggled with dating for years and made lots of mistakes. ...
4 Tips for Sharing Powerful Stories
One of my favorite books is "Love Does" by Bob Goff. The book focuses on Bob's views on God and Christianity. There is a lot of great material in the book—I highly recommend it. The ...
The Sin of Certainty
I’m reading an interesting book by Peter Enns called “The Sin of Certainty.” The basic idea is that as Christians, we often define faith as being certain that what we believe is true. I could ...
I’m Not Good at Thrusters… Yet
I looked up the Crossfit workout of the day and groaned. The workout was all thrusters: An 11-minute AMRAP (as many reps as possible) of 15 heavy thrusters (70kg), 25 medium thrusters (60kg), and 40 ...
